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A lot of times (and especially as entrepreneurs), we focus too much on what other people are doing. While we may be doing our own thing, we often get side tracked and start looking at what the next woman is doing to see if she’s supposedly moving ahead more quickly or more easily. Then, we start feeling discouraged, like what we’re doing is not good enough, and it can turn into something negative.
as I have been working on expanding my business and brand, there have been quite a few times when I was looking at what someone else is doing, wondering what she was doing that I’m not, asking myself things like, ‘Why does it seem like it’s easier for her?’ or ‘Why does it seem like she’s reached success way more quickly than me?’ And when I do this, I start feeling discouraged, down and like I’ll never accomplish the things I want. And how could I not feel that way? That’s what happens when you stop focusing on your path and start focusing on someone else’s.
Of course, staying in your lane is easier said than done, especially when it feels like all the other “cars” around you are getting to their destinations faster than you are, or maybe it seems like their “cars” are nicer or their journeys are easier. But, I’ve found that the…
…way to stay in your lane is to realize that it’s your lane.
I’ve started thinking of it like this: I am a unique person with unique talents and gifts. It doesn’t matter if the woman beside me does the same thing I do because she can’t do it like it me – she is not me – I am me! Even if both of us do the same thing, we each bring our own flavor to the table. There’s enough room for both of us to do what we do, so there’s no need to feel like I need to change lanes. I should stay where I am…
…focus on me and what I’m doing and concentrate on getting to my destination.
When you are focused on your lane and doing what you do, you will begin to see that you actually are making strides, that great things are happening (slowly but surely), and in the end, you’ll be much happier about where your life is headed….guaranteed.
Jamie Fleming-Dixon, Author & F.A.B. Life Coach
Dreamer. Lover of life. Goal getter. These are just a few words to describe Jamie Fleming-Dixon, inspirational writer, blogger, editor and F.A.B. Life Strategist. She is the founder and editor-in-chief of For Colored Gurls, a personal development blog with the mission of inspiring and empowering women to live their most Fabulous lives. Additionally, she is owner of Mocha Writer, a boutique copy editing and proofreading service.
Jamie is also the author of How to Change Your Mindset + Live Your Most Fabulous Life, a motivational book, providing practical tips for creating a more positive mindset and living the life of one’s dream. She has been featured in several websites, blogs, magazines and Blog Talk Radio Shows, including TheCEOMamma.com, AfroElle Magazine and Prominence Magazine and was recently named one of the 2012 50 Fabulous Women Entrepreneurs on BBWO (Black Business Women Online). Visit her online at jamieflemingdixon.com.